The Gottman Method in Couples Therapy -
Create a stable, courageous and connected relationship
The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy that provides practical tools for fostering close communication, strengthening friendships, and rebuilding trust. On this page, you will discover how the principles of the method fit into the therapeutic process—from resolving conflicts to building deep emotional partnership. It is a path that combines emotional depth with precise practice to help you transform your relationship into a space of closeness, mutual respect, and shared growth.
The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy, developed by Dr. John and Julie Gottman, a pair of clinical psychologists who have researched for decades what makes a relationship stable, healthy, and deep over time.
Over 40 years of research have enabled them to identify the essential elements of a healthy relationship, and no less importantly, the signs that predict a breakup. From hundreds of hours of observations, a precise therapeutic method has been built, with clear tools, that can bring about change from the very first meeting.
Why did I choose to incorporate the Guttman method into my work?
Love is not just an emotion, it is also a system of small, repetitive, daily actions that can build or erode the bond. The Gottman method allows me to guide couples not only through emotion, but also through action. It connects emotional depth with communication skills, compassion with structure.
What are the principles of the method?
Building a "love map": Deeply familiarizing yourself with your partner's inner world - thoughts, fears, values, dreams. The better you know them, the better you love.
Cultivating mutual affection and appreciation: Restoring a sense of "togetherness" by focusing on strengths, not just difficulties. Strengthening the bond through daily gestures of warmth, presence, and appreciation.
Turning to each other, not at each other: Developing response patterns that promote listening, rather than defensiveness or disengagement. Learning to stay connected even in the midst of disagreements.
Conflict management: recognizing that not every conflict can be resolved, but every conflict can be managed. Practicing tools such as emotional dialogue, empathetic listening, reactive regulation, and couple humor.
Building couple meaning: Renewed discourse on shared values, future goals, and connecting rituals. Create a couple narrative that gives depth and meaning to life together.
In which cases can the Guttman method help?
If you feel that the love exists, but the conversation has eroded.
If you often fight - or avoid emotional conversation altogether.
If you want clear tools that will help change communication patterns.
If you are looking to restore trust after a crisis.
If you want to maintain the relationship before it deteriorates.
What makes my application unique to the method?
As a couples therapist with a systemic approach and a constructivist foundation, I integrate the Guttman method within a broader therapeutic space:
With work on a sense of worthiness - so that everyone can bring themselves into a relationship without fear.
With the practice of discernment - so that you can hold both yourself and each other.
With a radical look at the intergenerational dynamics that govern this moment.
So the work is not just on the surface, but also on the emotional infrastructure underneath.
Why is this important?
A healthy relationship is not the result of luck, but of repeated choice, deep understanding, and the ability to see each other in a renewed light.
The Guttman Method gives you proven tools and I am here to hold you through the process, gently, consistently, and with a kind eye.