Family constellation
Reconnect with belonging, love, and the power of inner lineage
What is a family constellation?
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Family Constellation is a systemic treatment method developed by psychotherapist Bert Hellinger. It is based on representational work, allowing us to uncover deep, sometimes unspoken, family patterns that continue to operate in us today.
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The method seeks to restore order to family relationships, and to enable a sense of belonging, stability, and a renewed connection to the roots from which we came, so that we can choose a more complete life.
When can family constellation help?
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When you feel emotional outbursts or a repeating pattern.
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When there is emotional burden whose origin is not always clear.
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When there is a gap between external functioning and internal feeling.
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When you want to let go of something old and start moving forward.
What happens in treatment?
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In constellation work we don't "talk about" - we see.
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Through symbolic representations, connections, silent loyalties, and family secrets that have been preserved across generations can be revealed - without us knowing anything about them.
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When they become clear in the field, the possibility of profound change opens up.
This is a process that takes place out of respect for every part of the system, and out of a desire to restore everyone to their place.
What does a family constellation allow?
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To see what has been hidden until now.
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To release emotional weight that doesn't belong to us.
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To restore belonging to those who have been excluded.
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To free ourselves from the unconscious roles we have taken on.
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To open a new place in life – of choice, love, and inner peace.
Constellation in groups or in a clinic?
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The constellation exists in various formats:
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Individual meeting – with representative figures (on cards, wooden figures or objects).
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Group constellation – in which participants represent the characters of your personal story, through an intuitive and surprising connection.
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Sometimes just watching your dynamics represented by others opens up a new movement of healing.
Why is Constellation part of my toolbox?
Because often times, personal pain is not just yours and healing does not only pass through you, but through you also passes to others.
A family constellation allows for a connection to the roots, to the earth, to those who came before us - and hence also to your growth as a free, present, and loving person.
Side effects after the encounter
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Constellation work continues to "work" even after the session ends.
In the days following the encounter, there may be changes in sensations, energy, dreams, or emotions — these are signs that a new movement is beginning to take hold. -
I recommend slowing down, listening to your body, and letting things rest.
A common side effect after deep emotional work with the subconscious.
I recommend listening to your body, which is signaling signs of fatigue, and giving yourself a good rest. If possible, a nap is a good idea.
Hypervigilance is the side effect that is the other end of the fatigue scale.
It is also common after deep emotional work, the feeling is that the brain is overstimulated,
There is a desire to continue exploring the constellation field further and further, to try to understand and interpret things that happened in the encounter.
Here too - the recommendation is to give yourself a good rest -
Can't sleep? Relax by lying on the sofa in the living room, put your feet up, listen to pleasant, relaxing music or watch a nature documentary.
Give yourself at least an hour like this after the meeting.
A phenomenon related to your internal and systemic change. This feeling will pass within three days to a week,
This is the average time it takes for the new information that emerged in the constellation session to begin to organize and begin to create a new internal systemic order.
A common phenomenon that usually occurs three to four days after the encounter.
What do we do?
I just recommend staying in touch and paying attention to everything that comes up,
It could be a night of insights upon insights upon insights, all is well!
This is actually a sign for you that new connections are being built in the brain between the right and left hemispheres.
Everything is still very, very fresh and no new story is set, so let it just happen, without taking any definitive action -
Not writing down the insights for fear that you will forget them later,
Don't tell them right away when they come up, surrender to the process,
It takes about two days on average -
Afterwards, you will feel an inner peace enveloping you, something calming down inside -
This is a sign that the movement I call "casino machine chips falling" is over.
Now, if you want to write/document/tell a story - this is a good time.
These are phenomena that indicate a major release of energy blockages that were held in the body,
The symptoms indicate a very great sense of inner turmoil,
A meeting between two worlds that both opens up the emotion but also greatly undermines all the previous perceptions that guided you before.
These symptoms are telling you that your internal system is cleaning itself.
This happens especially in cases of a first encounter with the constellation or after a meeting in which content that was very emotionally upsetting came up.
Here too, I recommend paying attention to this phenomenon that indicates a beneficial movement,
Let it happen until it ends.
Usually within three days to a week it will pass -
Evidence that you have undergone a dramatic internal, emotional, and perceptual change and that something better for you is about to begin.